• bethanysimplyb

Letting go of Perfect.

Updated: Dec 1, 2018

If there is anything that motherhood has taught me most, it is that there is no such thing as perfection. This however, is a hard pill for me to swallow. You see, I am a perfectionist. My biggest insecurity is that I am not enough, as a mama or as a woman. I MUST be able to do it all and do it all well.

I think in some way, I have tricked myself that being “perfect” will prove that I am capable, lovable, valuable and independent. Will I ever really be good enough? If I strive to be perfect, I can create a mask that tells the world yes and hopefully makes myself believe it too.

But how exhausting is this? Not only do I face the mama wars of the world, but I have created a war within myself. Thank you perfectionism – but you are no longer my friend.

Let’s be honest here: motherhood has kicked my ass and I have fallen flat on my face. I have failed. I have cried. I have struggled. I have questioned and I have judged. I have felt like giving up, almost every single day.

BUT – I have also felt joy and love. I have found strength I never knew existed. And I have learned to love myself more than I ever thought possible. I have fallen off the merry go round of perfectionism. And I have learned what is really important in this life.

I am letting go of perfect so I may be the present mama I desire. I am letting go of a clean home, of a daily shower, of the mama status I planned and I am being in the moment. I am playing, I am watching, I am talking, I am reading, I am cuddling, I am loving, and I am listening. None of it is tidy, none of it is perfect, but all of it is wonderful.

Won’t you join me, mama?

With Love,




Remember, you were never created to do it all and you were never created to do it alone.